How To Have A More Productive Meeting With Your Divorce Lawyer


Going through a divorce is difficult, but having the right divorce lawyer can help the process go smoothly. However, even with the best attorney, you must also put in some effort to ensure your meetings are productive and efficient. Here are a few ways you can have more productive meetings with your divorce lawyer.

1. Quiet your mind beforehand.

Divorce is a very emotional process. When you meet with a lawyer, reality can hit, and you may become tearful or sad. Feeling these emotions is okay, but you do not want them to get in the way of the productivity of your meeting. So, before your meeting with the divorce lawyer, take a few minutes to quiet and calm your mind. Engage in some deep-breathing exercises, do some yoga, or go for a run -- do whatever it takes to put your mind at ease. Sometimes, it can help to get breakfast or coffee with a friend, as this gives you a chance to vent your emotions to someone other than your attorney. When you get to the meeting, the emotions will have passed, and you can focus on getting things done.

2. Make a list of questions.

You do not want your mind to go blank the minute you step into the attorney's office. If you forget to ask important questions, they may have to be put off until the next meeting, which could slow down your whole divorce process. Instead, make a list of questions to ask your attorney as you think of them throughout the week. When you arrive at the meeting, you can even hand the list directly to the attorney to ensure those things get addressed.

3. Know that your lawyer is doing the best they can.

Sometimes, people going through a divorce feel like they are losing a lot, and they start to blame their lawyer for the sacrifices they are asked to make. This can really impede the productivity of your meetings since you and the lawyer will be working against each other, rather than together. It's important to remember that your lawyer is doing the best they can for you. But you will have to compromise and give up some things in the divorce, as will your partner. You can express your unhappiness with certain compromises to your lawyer, but you also need to understand that there is only so much they can do. If you do not get 100 percent of everything you want, that's not the lawyer's fault.

4. Take notes.

Throughout the meeting, your lawyer may recommend that you take certain actions, like closing certain bank accounts or paying certain bills. Take notes, either in your phone or on paper, throughout the meeting. This way, you will have a record of what you need to do when you get home to keep the divorce moving forward.

5. Be honest.

If your actions had some impact on the reason you're divorcing, admitting this, even to yourself, can be tough. But in order for your lawyer to best help you, they need to know the truth about your relationship and the circumstances of your divorce. The same goes for sensitive issues of abuse and mistreatment. As hard as these things are to talk about, you must be upfront about them with your lawyer if you want things to keep moving forward smoothly.

Follow the tips above to get more out of your meetings with your divorce attorney. Remember to find an attorney who makes you feel comfortable and confident. When you work with someone who has a good understanding of your needs, the meetings are easier on everyone. 


21 November 2018

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