6 Mistakes That Could Cause You A More Stressful Divorce


Divorce is inevitably a stressful and difficult thing to go through. However, you can manage the stress you experience as a result of your divorce by avoiding the following six mistakes:

Talking about your divorce with friends or family members that may be biased

While having a close friend or family member to talk to during your divorce is important, choose wisely. It's probably not a good idea to discuss your divorce with someone who you know is very close to your spouse and may take his or her side without really considering your perspective. 

Assuming that communication will be easier with your spouse after you've both agreed to divorce

If you've been having communication problems with your spouse for a long time, it might be best to have a moderator along with you when communicating with him or her during your divorce. The fact that you've both agreed to file for divorce won't necessarily make it easier to work together to find an acceptable solution, so don't set too much hope on working out your divorce independently by talking things through with your spouse. 

Being so distracted by your divorce that you neglect your physical needs

A divorce involves a lot of emotional turmoil that can distract you from taking care of yourself. However, eating well and getting enough sleep are both important for reducing stress during your divorce. Getting exercise is also important any time you're going through a stressful life event. 

Not giving yourself a break

It's easy to get caught up in your divorce and to focus all of your thoughts on it while it's happening. However, this is going to set you up for high stress levels and could even lead to depression. 

Take time out while you're dealing with your divorce to have fun. Do things that you love and distract yourself often from the troubles you're facing in your family life. 

Being unwilling to compromise

The longer you take to come to an agreement with your spouse, the longer your divorce will take and the more stress you'll suffer from because of it. 

Most people start out in their divorce case with certain expectations, and defending your best interests is of course important. However, it's also important to be willing to compromise on less significant details. 

Failing to empathize with your spouse

At one point, your spouse married you and wanted to spend the rest of his or her life with you. It therefore stands to reason that your spouse is also dealing with stress as a result of your divorce and going through a difficult time just like you are.

Understanding what your spouse is going through can make it easier for you to compromise and to come out of your divorce with a positive, amicable relationship. 


13 June 2017

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